Try to keep the condom in a jacket pocket but not the same pocket as your keys! If it looks worn down or like it could have been punctured, toss it. The best place for condoms is in cool dark places. So if you don't feel like carrying them, make sure to keep them bedside at the very least. Though it's always good to have one on you if you're going out, use your judgment.
If it looks old and tossed-around, it's probably not going to protect you from anything. Lovability's condoms are probably my absolute favorite because they're packaged in a durable container so less chance of tearing , they don't smell like Autozone, and they're packaged right-side-up which is great for trembling hands.
This next item might not seem as obvious as the others. However, it's very important. I'm a huge proponent of lube. And while lube might not be as important as condoms when it comes to safety, lube is almost vital when it comes to the actual deed. When you're doin' the do after a night out, you might have noticed that while it might be harder for you to perform it's also harder to just get it in to begin with. Whiskey dick is a catchy phrase, but sometimes women suffer from — for lack of a better phrase — whiskey vagina.
Everyone knows that when you drink you get dehydrated, but what everyone might not know is that dehydration directly effects how wet a girl can get. So if you're planning on drinking pre-hookup, it might be a good idea to keep some lube on you. You can buy little one use packets that you can easily slip in your front pocket. Not your back pocket; that could be a disaster. If you plan on going back to yours, make sure to keep a bottle of lube in your bedside table along with all your condoms.
And make sure you buy plain ol' lube. Don't buy anything that advertising a tingling sensation or that's flavored. Because "tingling" lube usually just straight up burns and flavored lube usually has glucose in it which makes it unsafe for putting it inside a vagina.
When you're trying to get laid on any given night, you have to try. Very seldom is a girl going to just fall into your lap and be willing to go home with you. So, you need to employ a few strategies when hunting for potential hookup prospects. As a dude, you're usually expected to be on the offensive when it comes to asking to hang out or hookup.
Here are a few ways to do that: When it comes to texting, no one ever wants to be the one texting first. Especially if you've been left on read or you were the last one to respond to a dying conversation. It takes some balls, but boy can it be worth it. If there's a girl in your phone who you've been flirting with or have hooked up in the past shoot her a text and hope for the best. Send something subtly flirty and be direct with what you want.
But don't be too direct; no girl wants to get a text that says something like, "hey, we should have sex". So be direct without being too candid, something like "Hey!
What are you up to tonight? What are your plans for this weekend? I'd love to see you" gives off a flirty vibe without being too overtly sexual.
Throw in a winky emoji or a smiley face for good measure. I know that texting first, especially double texting, can be a point of anxiety for most but if you want to get anywhere with a girl you're going to have to be okay with taking a risk.
If you're nervous about what she might say send the text and then walk away from your phone. This way you won't feel tempted to hover over your phone in anticipation.
Though throwing your phone across your room will keep you from texting other potential hookups. So cast your net wide and send a couple flirty text to try to make plans, but instead of tossing your phone into an abyss put some girls you're particularly nervous about on do not disturb. You'll be free to text other girls or scroll down Twitter without feeling too anxious about responses rolling in.
Tinder, and other dating apps alike, are arguably the most reliable ways to find a hookup. Even if girls are looking for a longterm partner on a dating app, they're usually okay with fooling around in the process. With that being said, swipe right! Log on to your favorite dating up, spruce up your profile a little bit, and go for it! Swipe right on a ton of girls. Swipe right on any girl that you would be remotely interested in sleeping with because with dating apps you have to cast your net extremely wide.
Because let's be honest, you're not going to message have the girls and they're probably not going to message first. It's harder to message first when you don't know the person. They're going to feel less obligated to reply since they don't know you. It's hard to establish that connection with a bad pickup line and a cheesy gif. Message a large number of your matches and see if anything sparks! Set a time to meet up at a bar or a party and see if anything catches fire in real life!
Do you know a girl, but not well enough to have her number? Do you and a girl habitually like each other's tweets, but never really talk? Maybe it's time to actually talk to your WCW. There is no harm in sliding into a girl's DMs. It's less nerve-wracking then messaging a girl you already know pretty well, and you're more likely to get a response than you are by hitting on Tinder girls.
Like one of her tweets or grams and then follow it up with a compliment in her DMs. Don't be afraid to be a little more flirty than you usually would be; girls get plenty of guys sliding into their DMs, you're going to definitely need to stick out from the pack if you want a response. If she responds, take that as a good sign and try to keep the conversation going. If you can manage to keep a conversation going in her DMs, then try to transition the conversation from online to in person by asking her if she has plans or if you could buy her a drink sometime.
Now that you have initiated contact with a potential hookup, it's time to get your flirt on. If you want to get laid, you need to cultivate that connection with sincere compliments, well-timed jokes, and occasional subtly sexy innuendos. A lot of guys are flirtatiously inept.
However, a general rule of thumb is that if you're making her sincerely laugh, then you're probably doing a good job. These steps that you need to somewhat nail if you want to nail her.
Flirting isn't strictly limited to what you say and the vibes you give out. Flirting is highly physical as well. Your body language says just as much about what you want as your words do. Make sure that when you're talking with your girl that you keep your body language open and inviting. If you're sitting down, point you knees and feet at her. If you're standing make sure to stand across from her or pivot your body toward her when talking in a group.
Don't cross your arms or put something physical — like a backpack or briefcase — between the two of you; these are examples of closed body language and may give the impression that you're not into her.
Another thing you should do to make sure you're giving her all the right vibes is to touch her. And no I don't mean inappropriately hopefully that'll come later. When you're hanging out — whether you be at a bar or in private — try to make 3 points of contact. A few examples include reaching out to brush her hair away from her face, touching her hand, touching her shoulder or looping your arm with hers while walking.
These points of contact should be affectionate without being overtly sexual, and purposeful. Accidentally brushing her hand with yours does not count.
I'm a believer that for some alcohol is certainly liquid courage. But I'm also an active believer that for most too much alcohol is fuel for stupid decisions. That being said, I'm not totally against drinking when trying to hookup.
Sometimes a beer or two, or three is what you need to build the courage to talk to that girl at the bar or finally ask her if she wants to "get out of here". I am however against sloppy drunk hookups, especially when you're hooking up with someone for the first time. Odds are you probably don't know them very well, or if you do, you don't know them sexually at all.
Knowing and trusting someone even if it's only a little bit is important even when you're looking for a fling. So stick to wine or beer if you can't trust yourself to go overboard on the liquor. Make sure you order a glass of water in between drinks and actually drink it. Don't worry about looking like a square when watching how much you drink; you'll look mature, cool, and collected. The last thing you want to do is have one-too-many and completely ruin your chances with a girl.
Next to humor, confidence is paramount when it comes to closing. If you don't think you're capable of closing, you're probably not going to close. Feeling confident is something everyone has to work on. It's a total fake-it-till-you-make it scenario. Even if you're insecure, you need to put on a front that you're somewhat confident. This is why grooming is so important in the hooking up equation; because even if you don't feel like the most confident man in the room, dressing well will help you get there.
Plus, no well-groomed guy is going to look like they lack in self-esteem. However, there is a huge difference between acting confident and cocky.
For some, it's hard to toe that line. So when you're speaking, have a filter. Make sure that nothing coming out of your mouth sounds douchey and self-obsessed. This is why it's important for a lot of guys to watch how much they're drinking; for a good amount of guys they become more cocky with each drink. Believe me; I understand that you want to get laid. I understand that if given the option, you'd probably want to get laid right here and right now.
I understand how you might feel a sense of urgency, especially if you're in the midst of a particularly lengthy dry spell. And sex is fun. But no what's not fun? Feeling like you're getting pressured into sex.
So… don't get pushy. It's not cute, and it will do nothing to get you laid. When it comes to flirting — especially when it comes to humor — it's very important to match her tone. Let's say you have a very vulgar sense of humor and she isn't nearly as filthy as you. You're going to want to tone it down a little bit until your remarks clearly don't cause discomfort. If you clearly make her uncomfortable with any of your jokes dirty, political, or otherwise apologize and change the topic.
The same goes for being forward. You don't want to be overtly sexual with your comments and compliments if she's clearly not finding it flattering. There are ways to be forward without being explicit. That being said, there are girls who are sexual as fuck when it comes to flirting.
If you find one of those girls, congrats. If they're willing to be outright freaky in the streets, she's probably just as freaky in the sheets. Once things start getting hot and heavy, it might be difficult to figure out what to do next or how to far to go. Hooking up is a broad term.
Hooking up could mean anything from getting to second base to doing anal… it just depends on your definition of the word which is important when it comes to the actual act of hooking up. Since people have different definitions of the word and have different ideas of how far they're willing to go based on the situation, hooking up is a total gray area. So, when you're hooking up you're going to have to make a lot of sense of all the gray; you're going to have to figure out what's black and what's white.
The obvious solution to this is to communicate. Don't be shy about asking what she wants from you or how far she's willing to go. You might feel awkward about outright asking if she wants to have sex, but she'll be turned on by the fact that you actually asked. You should be golden so long as you're keeping everything safe and consensual as well as sexy, but here are a few Do's and Don'ts when it comes to dickin' her down.
Girls come in all shapes and sizes, but this tip is for all my short girls out there. Short girls never have to worry about being too tall for guys, but what they do have to worry about is being too short. So when you're making out with a shorty, make sure you're taking her height into consideration. While short girls won't mind getting with tall guys because every girl is into the tall, dark, and handsome type , they might regret their decision the next morning when their neck is completely stiff from making out standing up.
If you notice that she's craning her neck a little bit, lead her over to a couch or the bed to make your make-out sesh more comfortable. Remember those gray areas I mentioned? This is one of them. When you're hooking up with someone new, you should be very cautious about getting rough.
Yes, most people have engaged in some kind of rough sex according to blank about blank percent , but for some people, it is not their cup of tea. Before you go full on Fifty-Shades, test the waters. And by test the waters I mean barely dip your toe at first. Lightly scratch her back, barely pull her hair, or when you kiss her hold her by her chin.
Don't full on dig your nails in, don't yank her hair back, and don't choke her right off the bat. That's how you scare the shit out of someone who's vanilla as fuck. If you're trying to get freaky, test the waters or straight up ask her.
But, speaking for experience, a freaky girl will probably feel more comfortably asking for what she wants. For some reason, women sometimes find it harder to communicate their needs in bed. So, make sure that when you're hooking up ask what feels good. Usually you can base what's feeling good off of her physical reactions. For instance, if she's moaning or arching her back whatever you're doing probably feels good.
If she's not making any noise or pulling away from your motions, then whatever you're doing probably doesn't feel so great. If you can't figure out where she's at, then ask. Just by saying something like "Does that feel good, babe? If you're attempting anything particularly acrobatic during a first or second hookup, then you're fucking up.
Not only are you probably doing the aforementioned sex position wrong but you're putting future hookup opportunities at risk. Crazy Kama Sutra positions are completely off limits for when you first start hooking up with someone. You should stick to basic positions think missionary and doggy when you start hooking up with someone.
Once you've established some trust, then put your life in their hands by attempting any wild sex positions. While you shouldn't try to twist your body into a pretzel while having sex with someone for the first — or second — time, you shouldn't just stick to missionary.
Think about how you can spice up basic or minimally physically demanding positions. Something as simple as raising her legs over your shoulders during missionary or pulling her upright during doggy to kiss her shows variation. Another pretty basic way to change it up is to throw a pillow under her back in missionary or under her knees in doggy to change the angle at which you're thrusting.
You can also fuck around the house. Don't just keep it on the bed. Bang on the floor. Bang on the couch. Bang in the kitchen. Just make sure your roommates aren't home…. Sex doesn't end when you cum. I'm going to say that again for the people in the back: Contrary to popular belief, the male orgasm does not signify the end of sex. For the love of god, please don't cum, roll over, and fall asleep.
At the very least take a breather before continuing to work your lady over. Her pleasure is just as important as yours. However, if she makes it clear that she's done but hasn't cum, that's okay too. Don't push your partner to cum if she's having a hard time getting there. The female orgasm can be elusive to most females themselves. So don't make them feel bad if they couldn't get there.
And don't feel bad either. Having an orgasm hinges heavily on trust and feeling completely relaxed. Both of those things usually come with hooking up a few times. Please don't leave her there coverd in your cum Get the girl a towel. Better yet, help the girl out. This should go without saying, yet here I am.
So you got laid! Good for you, my dude! Now the key is to not act like a total weirdo now that you've banged this girl. Here are a few key steps to proper post-hookup etiquette: Gauging when you should leave can be difficult.
There will be times where you should stay the night and when you shouldn't. Watch for key actions or phrases when making this decision. Has she rolled over and completely ignored you after sex? Has she mentioned several times that she has to get up early? Has she straight up told you to leave? Call yourself an Uber and make your exit. If you do end up staying the night, try to wake up at a reasonable hour. There is nothing worse than having to wait for someone to wake up before going about your day.
And it's even more awkward when you have to try to wake them up. So don't be a dick and set an alarm for 8 or 9, depending on the day. If its a weekday, try to get out of there earlier than later. If you're at your place and she's overstaying her welcome. Try not to be a dick, but get the girl out. The last thing you want is to resent the girl for spending the night when you have an early morning. Even if you don't want to talk to the girl again, at least shoot her a text saying that you had fun.
Unless something absolutely terrible happened, you shouldn't ghost. Not only is ghosting after sex rude, but it's also cowardly. You will lose her respect if you decide to disappear rather than telling her that you're not down to hang out again.
You'll look like a total pussy in her eyes, and if you were to try to hookup with her again, you'd look like an even bigger loser.
Don't ghost, even if you think that's the easy way out. It's better to shut her down than to lead her on or offer her any false hope. You may have noticed an over-arching theme with the last two tips… which is not to be a dick. Even if she's clinging or if you don't want to hookup with her again, be polite. You had sex with this girl, so don't be a dick to her. Don't ghost, don't say anything rude, and treat the girl with respect.
There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession.
The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn. They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think?
Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes. The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement.
Then again, maybe they are law enforcement. Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive.
We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter.
But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply. At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime.
So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different. I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men. If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past.
As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy. There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute. Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often. Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi.
There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter. After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal. I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers.
After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters. Their problem was the opposite of mine. They had too many options to pick from, but they both dealt with the numerous choices in the same way. Both women ultimately responded to men who they felt put effort into writing long, personal messages as opposed to quick notes.
Multiple paragraphs of insightful and relatable prose won out — but only after the initial test of physical appearance. Both said they immediately eliminated men who opened with pictures of genitalia — a very common practice. However, looks were important. One of the women I interviewed said she once had a crush on a client at her job, but couldn't make a move without compromising her professionalism. However, she was looking through Casual Encounters and saw an ad from a man, and she recognized his writing style — it was her old client!
She sent him a message to see if it was him, asking a question only he would be able to answer. He proved his identity and they ended up hooking up. One of the women said she would go to Casual Encounters when she was looking for a very specific sexual experience — something you can't always count on from a one night stand that starts at a club or bar.
The other said her reasons could be summed up as "curiosity, boredom, and convenience. The trick is to keep an open mind and not have any real expectations. At the very least, it's mildly entertaining. After all this exploration, I'll say that Craigslist casual encounters is a place where people go to find very specific things from each other that they might not be able to conveniently locate in the real world.
Some of those things are very alternative. It's a last, best hope for some people who are looking to make a personal connection, but it's full of spam, unwanted attention, crime, and, well You might not find what you're looking for, but you're sure to find something interesting regardless. Image courtesy of iStockphoto , nights , geotrac. Samuel Axon is a digital content producer in New York City.
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The most common scams are "safe dating" websites. An alleged woman will write a man saying she's interested, but that because of the Craigslist-based serial killers and rapists in the news, she needs some extra assurance that it's safe. If you follow the link she provides, the website asks you for your credit card number — y'know, so it can do a background check to make sure you're not a criminal.
One individual tried to get me to buy him or her virtual currency in online games like MapleStory before agreeing to hand over contact information. Yeah, right — moving on! What little luck I'd had so far. The week was half over and I hadn't had a single bite.
I decided I would have to take the initiative, so in addition to posting my own ads, I started responding to every ad from any woman who seemed at all interesting. I cast a wide net in my searches, looking up posts by straight or bisexual women between the ages of 18 and 35 who lived anywhere in Chicagoland — a large metropolitan area that's home to close to five million females. Most of the women wanted something very specific they couldn't find in their normal lives: Someone to help play out a particular fantasy, someone vastly older than them or someone of another race.
Very few of the women who were advertising seemed to be looking for anything I would consider a "normal encounter. I typically wrote two or three paragraph replies and matched the tone of their own messages, then attached a couple of tasteful photos of myself.
I didn't get a single reply from an actual prospect this way. It turned out that most of the ads were fakes from scammers, and quite a few fell into another category all together.
Prostitution is what made Craigslist controversial. There's technically another section for that — "Adult Services," formerly "Erotic Services" — but that's not the only place you'll find practitioners of the world's oldest profession. The prostitutes of Craigslist speak in code, but it's not a difficult one to learn. They advertise "French lessons" — an odd thing to advertise under "Casual Encounters," don't you think? Well, it's obviously a euphemism for something else. Many of the ads that weren't from scammers were from prostitutes.
The ads are so obvious that it's surprising the euphemisms are effective in fending off law enforcement. Then again, maybe they are law enforcement.
Amidst all those failures, I had one near-success. A woman wrote in response to my sweet "cuddling first" ad saying she was in town for only a couple of months, and that she was frustrated she couldn't find a relationship. When she sent her pictures, she looked plain but attractive.
We exchanged a couple of e-mails over the course of two hours, tossing back and forth lists of interests and the like. She made it clear that she wanted to meet up, and while she talked about starting slow, it was clear that it would indeed be a casual encounter.
But when I suggested a time to meet — the last message from me before I would reveal myself and back out — there was no reply.
At least, not yet. The next day, she e-mailed me saying she was deeply apologetic and that she'd fallen asleep. She said she'd like to meet up sometime. So yes, there are women on Craigslist. Well, at least one! You've probably guessed by now that the experiences for heterosexual men and women on Craigslist's casual encounters are quite different.
I observed that for every ad a woman posts, there are at least 20 from men. If nothing else, that imbalance ought to alter the experience. To get the female perspective, I did two things: I posted a fake ad as a woman to see what kinds of responses I would get, and I interviewed two women who have had success hooking up on casual encounters in the past.
As for potential suitors, I asked only that they supply a photo and "be attractive and not creepy. There was a five minute delay before my ad appeared, then I started receiving about one response per minute. Most of them were careful to say "I don't do this often.
Some sent pictures of themselves naked along with the word "Hi. There were a lot of expressions of sympathy over my fake breakup. I was hearing from men of all types, and it seemed I had my pick of the litter. After about thirty minutes, though, my post was flagged for removal. I thought I'd made it look legit, but as we learned earlier, folks have good reason to be hawkish about scammers. After the end of my test run with Craigslist casual encounters, I decided to get more insight into the female experience with the site by interviewing two women who said they had successes meeting up with men on Casual Encounters.
Their problem was the opposite of mine. They had too many options to pick from, but they both dealt with the numerous choices in the same way.
Both women ultimately responded to men who they felt put effort into writing long, personal messages as opposed to quick notes. Multiple paragraphs of insightful and relatable prose won out — but only after the initial test of physical appearance. Both said they immediately eliminated men who opened with pictures of genitalia — a very common practice. However, looks were important.